There is something very odd about the idea that says men should not express their emotions and feelings. These are a part of our mental framework, but there is a gap in the sensitive side of society; to suppress feelings only widens this gap, and runs counter to our nature as human beings.
What we need are highly sensitive people (HSP). In particular, we need highly sensitive men to walk out of the shadows to break the pervasive stigma that says feelings are not allowed. No, I am not talking about men who cry over everything. No, I am not talking about men who are not confident. And, no, I am not talking about men who are easily hurt by mean words.
What I am talking about are men who possess a confidence that is predicated on self-love, men who have a deep desire to help better society, men who are wise, men who are compassionate, men who are diplomatic, men who are thoughtful, men who are kind, and men who can admit to their feelings. If you are this kind of man, and you feel as though society has not treated you right, then it is time to do something about it. This world needs you, and I don’t think that needs any explanation. Highly sensitive men are just as tough as any other man. They have to be, just to be who they are in a world that wants them to be something else.
Further, I’d like to explain the HSP in more detail. Sensory processing sensitivity (found in highly sensitive people) is an innate trait, born into 15-20% of the population of many species, including humans, fish, and others. The HSP is more aware than others of subtleties, and more easily overwhelmed. In other words, their nervous system over-emphasizes the stimuli coming in from their surroundings compared to someone who is not highly sensitive.
Nearly 30% of HSP’s are extroverts, so this is not a purely introverted trait. HSPs prefer to look before entering a new situation. In fact, you can think of them as the “priestly advisors” to our society: the ones who see the bad things happening, the ones who feel it more strongly, and the ones who look out for danger. What’s most interesting is that roughly half of all HSPs are men, which may surprise many of you. Sadly, many of these men hide behind their true selves because of society’s expectations.
In addition, this trait is valued differently in different cultures. For example, this trait is favored more in the East, as with China and Thailand, and favored less in the West, as with the United States and Canada. If you are interested in learning more about highly sensitive people, you can visit this website: hsperson.com.
You may also find it interesting that some of our greatest male leaders are suspected of being highly sensitive, such as Martin Luther King Jr, Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, Albert Einstein, and Charles Darwin. Likewise, many famous artists are highly sensitive, such as John Lennon, Vincent van Gogh, Leonardo da Vinci, and Elton John.
So, let me ask you: What is wrong with embracing your true self, in your most authentic form? What is wrong with being a highly sensitive, and strong man?
If you are a highly sensitive person, man or woman, I HIGHLY encourage you to message me. I’d love to hear from you!
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“The truly creative mind in any field is no more than this: A human creature born abnormally, inhumanly sensitive. To him… a touch is a blow, a sound is a noise, a misfortune is a tragedy, a joy is an ecstasy, a friend is a lover, a lover is a god, and failure is death.” – Pearl S. Buck